who do you think you are?!

one of the very things us -human beings- are more loyal to is our identity. who we think we are dictates what we do, what we see, what we wear, what we receive... for example, it’s easier for someone to quit smoking if they think “starting now, i’m a non-smoker” than if they think “i’ll try to quit smoking”. this also means, that our limiting believes define the identity of our fear.

let’s pry into the archetypes of fear:
• the procrastinator: somebody that’s afraid of less than perfect outcomes, so fear doesn’t allow them to start anything
• the people pleaser: somebody that fears losing love because of the results of their choices
• the rule follower: somebody that thrives inside well-established limits, but fears thinking out of the box
• the outcast: somebody that fears being common, so they choose not to follow any rule with the purpose of standing out
• the self-doubter: somebody that suffers the famous imposter syndrome
• the excuse-maker: somebody that fears facing reality
• the pessimist: somebody that fears having faith and being disappointed, so they choose to look for negative outcomes to have a sense of control of their emotionall discomfort
which one do you identify with? and who do you want to become in order to overcome the limits that these archetypes bring to your personality?

• ruth soukup created a questionnaire that can help you get to know better the identity of your fear. take the free assessment here:

for the next step, answer the following questions on your journal: who’s the person living a life that you currently love? what characteristics does this person have? what brave actions did this person take to get where they are? how do they face challenges? how’s their body language most of the time? what do you have in common with them? what activities you both do daily? do you think they see the big picture or do they take life one day at a time?

now, from all the people i’ve talked to in a sort of coaching capacity, i can tell you that the biggest lies we all tell ourselves are: “i’m not worthy”, “i’m not good enough”, “i don’t deserve x”. which i’m sure stems from the societal current belief that we have to do something in order to be deserving of love 🙄🙄🙄. do me a favour, please repeat out loud: “no matter what i’ve done, no matter what i’ve not done, i am worthy of love”.

life may feel uncomfortable at times, especially during an expansion period (and when is this universe not expanding?) so when we finally come to terms with the fact that life is a growth-centric experience, not a comfort-centric experience, we’ll stop fighting the lessons and challenges this loving universe is trying to give us, and that we’re labelling as problems to run from.

• dr. fre shares with us good morning by thomas de pourquery: “a great song to begin something. it starts slow and easy with low commitment and leaves you ready to keep on going”.

these past days i’ve been asking myself: what kind of identity will best serve me as the person i want to become? so i’m no longer a migrant woman with all odds against her. now i’m an unstoppable woman that wholeheartedly believes that anything i focus on, i can bring to reality.

watch me do it (and join me 😉)

much love (as always),
mora